Think about a time you witnessed bullying/ostracism/peer pressure/exclusion/discrimination/violence. How did you respond? How do you wish you had responded? What stopped you from responding that way?
I have watch too much of bullying more than I have wanted and it doesn’t take a lot of effort to remember the many events than have occurred in the past but there is one I can remember very clearly almost like it was just a second ago. I will not mention any names because I do not wish for anyone to get hurt. The bullying took place in one of my classes and there are only a small number of us exactly six if I remember correctly but it dose not take many to hurt another. The two victims of this bullying are not fully aware of the bullying but I am sure that they felt some hurt when the bullying took place. It was when the class was practicing for a Math test that was coming up and the two victims, a girl and boy didn't understand the questions that were given to us so that we could practice. The teacher tried very hard to get them both to understand but it seemed that they were not really paying attention to the teacher because of this the teacher decided to make the lesson more interesting by adding a little consequence if a student did not get the questions right so that the girl and boy would pay more attention in class. The little consequence was five push-ups for every question that a student got wrong. Both the girl and boy got the question wrong and the girl managed to do the push ups but with a lot of pushing and nagging. She was bullied by a couple of small remark, "Even ... could do it!" said one of the boys in my class that got the question correct. The classmates that got the question right kept putting the boy and girl down. Some of the remarks were, "Your arms must be so weak if they can not even handle five push ups!" and "Even ... could do it! And look at her." and "Stop being a wimp!" and many more. I stood up when the comments got out of hand but my class mate gave me this look as if to say, "What are you doing sticking up for them." That stopped me right in my tracks, their intimidation created a small spark of fear that aloud me to back down but if I would have said some thing I would have said this, "Leave them alone, it's not like you have not understood something before. You have not right to be making fun of them if the thing that you have be making fun of them for is something that you have done!" I wish that I could go back and change what I have done by honestly I don't think I could because "Often being excepted be others is far more satisfying than being excepted by your self."- Eve S
I have watch too much of bullying more than I have wanted and it doesn’t take a lot of effort to remember the many events than have occurred in the past but there is one I can remember very clearly almost like it was just a second ago. I will not mention any names because I do not wish for anyone to get hurt. The bullying took place in one of my classes and there are only a small number of us exactly six if I remember correctly but it dose not take many to hurt another. The two victims of this bullying are not fully aware of the bullying but I am sure that they felt some hurt when the bullying took place. It was when the class was practicing for a Math test that was coming up and the two victims, a girl and boy didn't understand the questions that were given to us so that we could practice. The teacher tried very hard to get them both to understand but it seemed that they were not really paying attention to the teacher because of this the teacher decided to make the lesson more interesting by adding a little consequence if a student did not get the questions right so that the girl and boy would pay more attention in class. The little consequence was five push-ups for every question that a student got wrong. Both the girl and boy got the question wrong and the girl managed to do the push ups but with a lot of pushing and nagging. She was bullied by a couple of small remark, "Even ... could do it!" said one of the boys in my class that got the question correct. The classmates that got the question right kept putting the boy and girl down. Some of the remarks were, "Your arms must be so weak if they can not even handle five push ups!" and "Even ... could do it! And look at her." and "Stop being a wimp!" and many more. I stood up when the comments got out of hand but my class mate gave me this look as if to say, "What are you doing sticking up for them." That stopped me right in my tracks, their intimidation created a small spark of fear that aloud me to back down but if I would have said some thing I would have said this, "Leave them alone, it's not like you have not understood something before. You have not right to be making fun of them if the thing that you have be making fun of them for is something that you have done!" I wish that I could go back and change what I have done by honestly I don't think I could because "Often being excepted be others is far more satisfying than being excepted by your self."- Eve S
Where have we seen examples of bullying/ostracism/exclusion occurring in texts studied so far this year- factual as well as fictional?
There were a lot of examples throughout all of the books that we read but I remember one example from The Hunger Games, the best. It involved ostracism, the character that was ostracised was Peeta, he felt excluded from Haymitch and Katniss's plans. Katniss had to get coaching from Haymitch at the end of the book because of the stunt with the berries was too rebellious agents the Capitol and she didn't want to make the situation worse. The coaching from Haymitch was to help Katniss seem like the love between Peeta and her was so strong that they couldn't live with out each other, that was why they did the stunt with the berries. Peeta wasn't coached because he was a natural at the love act because, for him it wasn't an act. He got very upset with this and felt that he should have known what was going on. Here is a small quote from the book on pg. 372 that shows Peeta's emotions, "Coaching you? But not me," says Peeta. "He knew you were smart enough to get it right," I say. "I didn't know there was anything to get right," says Peeta. " So, what you're saying is, these last few days and then I guess...back in the arena...that was just some strategy you two worked out." There is also a very little quote the show us some more of his emotions towards the topic, "the pain in his voice is palpable."
Select one line/phrase/group of sentences that are significant to you. Explain why.
"Looking back I wonder how I could have participated in mocking this girl. When I knew perfectly well what it was like to be mocked myself. I would like to say if I were in that situation today that I would act differently but I can't honestly be sure. Often being excepted be others is far more satisfying than being excepted by your self. Thou that satisfaction dosen't last too often our actions are determined by the moment." I feel that this line of sentences are significant because they are sentences that I agree with. We all would like to go back and change a moment in our life but sometime we are not sure if we could change it because "too often our actions are determined by the moment."
How is ostracism different from other forms of bullying? When does ostracising or excluding someone from a group become part of bullying?
Ostracism is different from bullying in the way that ostracism is exclusion from a society or group and bullying is use superior strength or influence to intimidate (someone), typically to force him or her to do what one wants. Ostracising or excluding someone from a group is apart of bullying but excluding is only a small part of bullying. Bullying takes it on step farther.
What’s familiar about the incident Eve describes? What surprised you?
Eve's incident is familiar because it happens all over the world, anywhere you could think of that human live. The thing that surprised me was the fact that all the people in her class were so close yet the incident was still able to occur.
How did Eve’s need to belong affect the way she responded when another girl was being mocked? Why does her response still trouble her? How do you like to think you would have responded to the incident?
Eve's need to belong affected the way she responded because at last she was being included and even though she knew that it was cruel she wanted to be accepted. This is reaction still worries her as she knew how hurtful it can be to be mocked. I would like to think that I would have stood up for the girl and told the "popular group" that they were being mean and that the diary was private.
Eve concludes “Often being accepted by others is more satisfying than being accepted by oneself, even though the satisfaction does not last.’ What does she mean?
I think that Eve meant that sometimes you can get over whelmed by the need to be accepted by others, we like to be liked and look for the company of friends, so that we can enjoy things together. It is more difficult for us to appreciate time spent on our own even though it can be just as rewarding and maybe even more so.
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